Happy New Year
Every year, I write a yearly review to evaluate my year and send it in to stories.ng. This year, I opted to not do that, partly because I didn’t have much to share and partly because I didn’t feel like sharing. But I’ll still attempt a mini evaluation of the year. It should be easier seeing as I wrote monthly reviews throughout the year.
Life and Lessons
Short of words, 2018 was meh; just there. Funny I feel this way now because I read through my monthly reviews and saw I wrote that at the beginning of 2018. Our words do have power. For me, it doesn’t feel like I did much and really, I didn’t achieve half the things I set out to do at the beginning of the year. But I am proud of myself for finally starting to do things afraid in spite of my many insecurities. Internally, I know that I experienced a complete attitude shift, mindset change and learned valuable lessons. I have changed a great deal since last January and I’m happy at the reformation that has taken place in my soul. This change in mindset is part of what I need to be effective and better achieve my goals in the next year.
For the first time, I got an accountability partner though I still struggled to be productive. It wasn’t her, it was all me. I struggled with work even after adjusting and had several low points where I couldn’t find fulfillment in my work. Then I got comfortable and it all went downhill after that.
It was a milestone birthday for me and with that came new lessons and the realization that I am in the driver’s seat of my life and not a passenger letting my parents and others drive anymore. I own responsibility of my choices and decisions and I owe nobody an explanation for what I choose to do. I also will bear the consequences of my poor choices. I also learned to love and accept myself, quirks and all, meaning that I refuse to give others the permission to affect my emotions and feelings anymore. I refuse to continue giving of myself to people who don’t reciprocate what I give. I wrote a thread on twitter on 10 of my takeaways from 2018
I did get to travel more as planned though I don’t have comprehensive travel diaries detailing all my travels. I planned and went on 5 trips and just returned from my fifth and final trip for the year (travel diary soon come). I’m on a mission to visit all 50 states in the U.S. and this year I visited 5 new states bringing the count of states I have visited to 28. Halfway there. In 2018, I visited:
- San Francisco and Denver
- D.C. and Maryland
- New York City
- Alabama, Nashville and Atlanta
I hit my goal of reading more and finished a whopping 4 books this year. I now feel comfortable to set a definite target of reading 10 books in 2019. From someone who used to read tons of books in a year to reading none, this is progress. The trick is to set the bar low, so I feel better about myself when I surpass my target :D. These are the books I read this year:
- The Bride Price – Buchi Emecheta
- Homegoing – Yaa Gyasi
- The Hairdresser of Harare – Tendai Huchu
- Stay With Me – Ayobami Adedayo
- Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office – Lois P. Frankel (in progress)
- Children of Blood and Bone – Tomi Adeyemi (in progress)
- Swipe Up to Unlock – Parth Detroja and Aditya Agashe (in progress)
- Becoming – Michelle Obama (in progress)
Highlights of my year include seeing some of my favorite artists perform live in concert – Sam Smith, Travis Greene and Tasha Cobbs; and finally starting a platform to provide more information on studying in the U.S. after talking about it for over 2 years. Check out NaijatoAmerica. Please help my market by subscribing, watching, providing feedback and sharing.
Low points include dealing with a lot of uncertainty and instability at work, developing a complex and low self-esteem at work without even realizing it. I’m now trying to build my self esteem back up but it’s tough, and mourning the deaths of several young people I knew personally including my childhood friend, a high school classmate, a friend I knew in grad school and Tosyn Bucknor.
In summary, while I didn’t achieve all I wanted including finally getting a toned body, playing tennis regularly and learning how to play the guitar, I took baby steps towards some things I’m really passionate about and that’s enough for me.
Plans for 2019
Now that 2018 is out of the way, here’s what you can expect from us in the new year. We are expanding and scaling up and bringing on additional writers to diversify content and add more perspective. The goal is to build this blog into a community of individuals committed to intentional living, self-awareness and personal development. As we grow, a newsletter and podcast are also in the works. Suffice to say that there is quite a lot coming up and I’m very excited to see it all play out. As far as we’re concerned, if one person reads this blog and can benefit from the content then our work is done. If you’re reading this now and think you’re interested in being a part of the community, reach out and we’ll see where you can be a good fit. Otherwise if you prefer to remain quiet and lurk in the anonymity the internet provides, that’s okay too. We only ask that you subscribe to the blog so you don’t miss out when we have new posts up 🙂
Happy new year. I hope your year is off to a good start. Wishing you an amazing and fulfilling one ahead.