Gratitude and a Half Glass
As difficult as it is to admit, I complain an awful lot. Let me paint it a different way, when I’m unhappy about something, I tend to focus on the source of my unhappiness or whatever I think is missing. To be honest, some of this ties back to greed. With wanting everything that is on offer or with wanting to have it all.
I’ve had to caution myself when I realize I’m complaining about my job or my car or my friends or where I live or.. the list goes on. It’s easy to take things for granted especially once you get comfortable. In the quest for the proverbial ‘more’, it’s very easy to forget the journey endured and challenges overcome to get to where you currently are.
The truth is things will not always be 100% and while a lot of the things we complain about are valid, it’s important to not remain fixated on what’s missing. Choosing to be grateful does not take away from your struggles but at the same time, do not dwell on them.
It’s all about perspective and choice. Like the optimist says: the glass isn’t half empty, it’s half full. You have a choice on what to focus on. You can choose to focus on the negative, however you can also choose to see things in a positive light.
For everything I’m unhappy about, I decided to list out all the good things about it. For instance, I used to be quite unhappy at my job so I would complain a lot. Adopting the glass half full reasoning, I listed the positive things about my job which I appreciate.
- I work for a company with global presence. I took this for granted forgetting how hard I worked to get in and how good I felt about myself when I received my offer letter. If I left today, I would only go higher
- There are a lot of opportunities for growth and training. I work with some of the smartest people and honestly, I’d be lying if I said there wasn’t a lot to take advantage of and learn
- It’s super flexible. I also get a generous amount of days off including extra days on major holidays. It’s not a traditional 9-5 job and while I work long hours some days, there are days I can get into work at 10am and some I can leave at 4pm. I’m allowed to work remote on some days too
- I’ve met really kindhearted people on the job and we’re forming friendships that extend beyond work. I’ve met not so nice people as well but the point of this is to focus on the good init 😉
- It’s not perfect but it comes with it’s own perks.
Completing this exercise confirmed that I have taken a lot for granted and need to start maintaining a heart of gratitude. One recommendation for this is to start a gratitude journal. I started one this year and it’s helped significantly. On the not so good days when I struggle to write something, I force myself to because there is always something to be grateful for.
For those who struggle with writing journals, a friend told me about an idea to color code your journal entries based on how you feel. For instance, yellow would stand for happy, green would stand for sick, brown would stand for unhappy and so on. The beauty is that you define the colors and moods you want to highlight. To find out more about color coded journals, check out https://www.christina77star.net/blog//2017/03/how-to-colour-code-your-bullet-journal.html
Gratitude is a step towards finding true joy and happiness no matter your circumstance. So today, I’m feeling grateful for life, time off, the end of another work week and the prospect of a fun weekend.
Have you been whiny like me forgetting to look at what you have going well for you? I’d love to hear your thoughts.